Speaking of Attraction (as in, Law of...)

I have been thinking about attraction alot lately.  Clearly my Blog has everything to do with the Law of Attraction and the value of this force in nature.  It started when I read "The Secret" and progressed through my other readings.  We are what we read right?  And we attract what we are!  Think hard on that for a moment...We Attract that which we are.  All of the circumstances, problems, people...they are not coincidentally a part of our lives.  We have drawn them to us and attracted them to us by what is inside us.  Have you ever thought to yourself, "I just want to be loved for what's on the inside"?  Here's the solution to that.  You CAN be loved for what is on the inside.  But you must learn to recognize when it is that you ARE being truly loved...for what's on the inside.  You can and will attract people who are like you and who want you.

This brings me to an unusual point about SoulMates.  If I believe in the Law of Attraction, I know there are some powerful forces working around us all.  There was a time when I would have said that there was no such thing as a soulmate.  But now that I have seen how lonely life can be, and how the Right kinds of people can make a difference in a person's life, Now I believe there may be merit in the idea.

Attraction draws people in and brings them together.  This is important globally for the creation of communities and the formation of alliances and friendships.  This is the main ingredient that keeps organizations bound, marriages together and teamates civil.  The idea of a common goal or central focus.  That central focus is not always enough to replace what is often times missing:  ATTRACTION.  Companies fail...partners cheat...teams divide.  What sets apart those that last from those that fail?  Simple...ATTRACTION.  Sound shallow to me.  It sounds like attraction comes and goes.  In a way, attraction does wax and wane.  Lets use marriage as a great example.  You cannot give up on a marriage after the first bump-in-the-road.  But if you have been mostly miserable for 5 years, I guess you can see that the attraction is gone.  If your company used to excite you and you looked forward to giving your time to them, then you are attracted to that company.  But if you are always overlooked for a promotion and people have lost their integrity, perhaps these will or have caused you to feel less attracted to this company?

Let's use this idea with celebrities.  Everyone admires (idolizes) someone on tv, movies or radio, right?  This attraction lasts and lasts.  You follow their personal life and their career and you even feel happy for them when they get married.  Then one day you discover some disappointing fact that shatters your elusion of your celebrity crush.  You have been there I bet...maybe only once, or maybe more times then that.  Suddenly, this celeb doesn't hold your interest like they once did.  The attraction is lost.  So what is it that causes attraction to last?  What causes it to come and go?  What can you do to preserve attraction?  These are very important questions that impact our deepest happiness in every way.

Preserving attraction is an essential element in using The Law of Attraction for positive changes.  People who apply LoA to their lives know that they must think about their goals often and frequently and with feelings.  There must be a stirring in them when they think about this "object" of affection.  If it is a place, a person, an opportunity or just money...whatever it is they desire, their desire must be raw with emotion in order to draw it to them as with a magnet.
I have my own business. There are moments when I have no attraction to my work.  These are challenging times for me when I must remember with deep feeling why I do this and feel that joy.  In my work, it is a little easier then in some lines of work because I work with children and children create a feeling of joy in me that other things and people cannot.  So even on my hardest day, I can recall the joyful moments and laughter and it brings me back!

With relationships, this is also a lot easier than you would think it might be.  If you have any happiness to dwell on it is possible to do it but both people must do it at the same time, together in order for attraction to happen.  Can you fall in love with a person by yourself?  Can you be in love all by yourself?  No, you cannot.  What a miracle it is to truly be in love...and to have that same person be in love with you back.  People underestimate how special that is.  I bet 50% of all people, on their wedding day, are not in love with their spouse.  They are just going through motions to get to the next level of life because of society's expectation.  It's sad but true.

Another simple truth here is that attraction feels it's most powerful upon it's initiation.  That first spark of enthusiasm...that new love...first kiss...that moment you are given a promotion or hear that you have won the lottery...or that moment your child is born.   Nothing generates that attraction in quite the same way as the initial spark.  So how do you maintain that?  There is only one way I can think of and that is by using another important force...Gratitude.  Once you become ungrateful for what you have, you have no longer got an attraction to it.  And so you do have all the power to keep the things you love.  The way to do so?  ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT YOU LOVE THEM.

~namaste~