Why is everything in Life a "give and take"?

Whether we like it or not...nothing comes free.  Everything in life, everything in the universe is give and receive.  It is the Law and it is unchangeable.  When you receive anything, you must give.  If you do not, whatever you received...or somthing else you have..will be lost or taken or stolen or removed.  You must give if you wish to receive.

It is funny to me right now at this very moment, I just made the observation that I have been trying to recognize the deeper wisdom of this very concept for a while now.  You see, I am from a family (my childhood family, not my present family) who lived life as the "entitled"...the "give me because I need" -types.  It is so sad and pathetic to live that way and it never ever results in anything good.  There is something inside of us...in fact, MANY things exist inside of us that are qualities that can be shared and they count toward giving.  We can give of ourselves emotionally.  We can share ideas, experiences and thoughts.  We can share compassion, passion or love.  We can share laughter.  Sharing our lives with others takes effort...and it can be exhausting.  For some people, who reach out but feel shut down, it can sometimes feel sad or too difficult.  But we must always respect other people's needs.  Some people need  to be left to themselves from time to time and some people are steering clear of certain types of energy that comes from being around specific people or types of people.  If you are someone who feels that you do all the reaching out but are not feeling it in return, just look around you and ask yourself..."who is trying harder to be close to ME..?" Chances are there is someone , or some people who are interested in being there for you and you have been closed-off to them.  So it works both ways.  We close ourselves off to certain people at certain times, and People close themselves off to us at certain times.  It is completely possible to love a person more at certain times then at other times and it still be love that you are feeling.

So, in case that was hard to understand, let me give you an example of what I mean.  I think this happens to all people all the time and for many years I used to let it affect me emotionally but now I understand this give and take phenomenon much better.  Let's start with the LoA- the Law of Attraction- according to LoA, everything in our lives is drawn to us.  It comes to us like a magnet by the thoughts and ideas and feelings we generate which have their own vibration.  These vibrations place us on a frequency with "like-minded" individuals and experiences.  Just like we will be attracting them, they will be attracting us.  So if I use a high-power magnet and you wear a metal jacket, you have no choice but to be drawn to me, do you?  This is exactly how the CBA Group (I am co-founding with my associates) came to be what it is today.  But more on that later...

I have some friends that I am always seeking out to spend time with.  Some of them reciprocate the interest, some accept the invite, and others distance themselves.  From my end of things, I am the same.  Some friends seek me out and I am glad to reciprocate.  Some friends, I will accept an invitation if it is extended, and others I distance myself from.  Clearly I do not distance myself from someone I am drawn to like a magnet, do I?  How could I?  It would be physically impossible!  Imagine me attempting to resist...or them attempting to resist?  I laugh picturing it.  When distance grows between people it is because they are not on the same frequency of thought/life/interest/Love.  There is a divide and it can be blamed on science.  To try and force these two together would never gel.  The only way to bring the two together is to change the thoughts or mindset to the same frequency.  But we are not robots.  We have the freedom to think and feel as we like and that can change from day to day and from minute to minute.

Our true feelings give us away.  They do.  There is no doubt in my mind on that one.  If someone loves you, you know it and you feel it.  If someone's behavior is contrary to their feelings, this also you can sense and see and feel.  Some people are better at reading those signs then others and some people are better at hiding their feelings then others.  But giving of ourselves is demanded if anything great is to be achieved in life and so we must always try with people.  I like to think of myself as a positive and giving person.  I have an outgoing nature.  I ask myself everyday, "what can I do to help (insert name: client, friend, child, etc)" and then once I have decided what I will do for them, I do that PLUS I add a little something more.  Obviously I cannot do this for every person every day, but I sure do try!  And when I feel the prompting or have been given something by someone I certainly go the extra mile to return the favor or to pay it forward if I cannot give back to the one who helped me.

Some time ago, I had a heartbreaking break-up with my two female cousins.  I felt blindsided by them.  They are not speaking to me anymore.  You see, they believed I owed them some sort of emotional attention that I failed to recognize they were in need of.  They came to take...to be takers...of my energy and my emotions.  Meanwhile, I was unaware they needed anything from me at all.  I saw myself as a giver and a helper...but to other people, not to them.  You might say, I thought our relationship was sound and that they saw me as paying it forward.  I was wrong.  they accused me of being selfish and a fraud, because I would blog about Law of Attraction and Love and all that.  I definitely came under attack by these two and I am still not forgiven for having overlooked their needs.  Situations like this have a way of knocking us backwards and for a few months I really just didn't want any friends in my life because I was afraid that would happen again.

Meanwhile, if I had stopped looking so closely at why they didn't want me in their lives, and instead kept my gaze at paying it forward with love and friendship, I might have noticed (sooner, because I eventually did notice it) that there were people in my life who were really showing me love and offerring me opportunities that reflected they understood my real value.   Now there is another important subject...knowing your value.  a true friend does not use you. They know your real actual value.  They care what you say and think simply because they like you...really and truly...not because you can do something for them.  Remember...what you take, you must give.

This puts me at an unfair advantage in life because I am a ChildCare Provider.  I take care of children (my own and other people's).  Whatever a person gets paid to do that kind of work is NOT ENOUGH...LOL.  Believe me, I am not trying to say that people should pay me more...I really don't mean that.  But if you are a parent, ask yourself, is there really a price you can place on the safety, protection, wellbeing and care of your precious child?  You know in all good conscience you cannot say yes to that.  There is no price that covers the value of what I do or give to the little charges in my life.  I love them. I do that freely...I get paid enough to cover my costs and there are no frills from it and that is as it should be.  BUT...it gives me a great opportunity to give...to give a lot...and also the unique position to receive...alot.  although my life seems modest from the outside, and it is far from perfect, inside my growth has been indescribable and in the next few years, my life is likely to look very different.  I know it will because I have seen it in my mind's eye.

understanding that to Give IS to Receive...this is a precious gift of knowledge.  It means absolutely nothing until you put it into practice.  You can know that doing sit-ups will help get you rock-hard abs, but unless you practice the sit-ups, you still have flabby abs.  If you are still wondering what you can resolve to change in 2012...maybe think about giving...more that receiving.

~namaste